Role Mate to Soul Mate

Description

Falling in love is natural; sustaining love is unnatural. It requires skills that few of us ever learn, plus the effort to put them into practice.

Drawing on 30 years of following up about what did and didn’t work years after couples took his nationwide “Role Mate to Soul Mate” workshops, The New York Times bestselling author Dr. Warren Farrell solved the two most important barriers to sustaining love: handling personal criticism without becoming defensive; and preventing complacency from replacing passion. 

In this book, you’ll learn concrete practices to:

• Appreciate your loved one with creativity, consistency, and with five levels of specificity
• Transform the “Four Depleters of Love” (Criticisms, Complaining, Complacency, and Controlling) into four ways to deepen love
• Master the “Eleven Soulmate Wisdoms”
• Create and sustain both a “Conflict-free Zone,” plus a “Caring and Sharing Practice” not to resolve conflicts, but to prevent them.
• Play together (“Couples that play together, stay together.”)
• Create concrete, win-win solutions to your stickiest problems
• Apply your new skills to family, friends, colleagues—and even political opponents

Falling in love is natural; sustaining love is unnatural; it requires skills no one learns, and the discipline to implement them. No book blends the art, discipline, and proven concrete practices to overcome the obstacles to a lifelong love better than Role Mate to Soul Mate.Warren Farrell, PhD, has coached couples and psychologists worldwide in couples’ communication for the past 30 years. His popular course on the topic is titled “Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Art and Discipline of Love.” Dr. Farrell has been chosen by the Financial Times as one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders. His books are published in 19 languages, and include the New York Times bestseller Why Men Are the Way They Are, international bestseller The Myth of Male Power, and 2018’s The Boy Criss. His previous book on couples’ communication, Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, was a selection of the Book of the Month Club. 

Warren Farrell has been a pioneer in both the women’s movement (elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women in NYC) and the men’s movement (called by GQ “The Martin Luther King of the men’s movement”). He has been interviewed by Oprah, Barbara Walters, Peter Jennings, Sean Hannity, Katie Couric, Larry King, Tucker Carlson, Regis Philbin, Jordan Peterson and Charlie Rose. He has frequently written for and been featured in the New York Times and publications worldwide. Dr. Farrell has two daughters and lives with his wife in Mill Valley, California, and virtually at WarrenFarrell.com.US